Post by Lorethian on Nov 8, 2012 14:57:47 GMT -5
Hey guys. I wanted to fill you in on an ongoing situation that's been developing over the past couple of days, and I wanted to ensure that everyone was filled in as much as I could.
A few days ago, DanMingle felt the need to leave FURST and create a clan of his own. This is something I'd normally have no problem with; it happened with Apocalypse929/BlitzFox when he left FURHQ in an attempt to start FURSS, a Spanish-speaking clan. He and I had some communication difficulties, but when he left, I was excited, and was trying to think of ways our two clans could work together to help his new idea grow! This was because Blitz came to me and told me that he was leaving to form another clan because he didn't feel comfortable with FURHQ (mostly because of a language barrier), and while I was sad to see him go, I respected his decision.
Dan didn't give me the same courtesy. He left without a word, and so did Saphirisa and Shockwave393. Dan also recruited DanielKitsaro, a former FURHQ member who decided to go solo for a while. While Shockwave, Daniel, and Saph have all since talked to me, and we've worked it out to some degree one way or another, Dan has YET to come to me and explain why he left, and what issues he was having with the clan that caused him to leave.
Apparently, according to everyone I've talked to but Dan himself, he was upset primarily at me. He states that I express favouritism towards certain clan members and ignore others, and that I haven't been there for the clans. This post isn't for me to defend myself, but to point out that he left without giving me a chance to address these issues and resolve them. He left the clan, and took other furries away from us, without even so much as a "goodbye".
As you can probably understand, this infuriated me. MY first move was to bar Dan and the other 3 from our Teamspeak server, with the mindset of "I'm not hosting this server for other clans, these are for FURHQ, FURST, FURRD, and whatever other clans our future may hold". Unfortunately, if it was either due to the heat of the moment, or just a simple oversight, I didn't think about how that would affect FURHQ, FURST, and FURRD (From here on in, for simplicity, I'm going to refer to all 3 as FURHQ) members who frequent TS, and would miss those folks. So, after a rather impassioned plea from a certain member of FURHQ, I relented and told Saph, Daniel, and Shockwave that they were welcome back in the Teamspeak, provided they weren't using it for recruitment purposes.
Dan, on the other hand, I banned because he had yet to even bother to say a word to me about any of this, and until I heard an explanation from him, there was absolutely zero reason for me to let him back in. However, since I'm fairly TS-inept, I wasn't familar with how to ban his IP if he wasn't online, so I just banned his name. He then changed his name, came on - after I had left - and proceeded to try to recruit M_Doyle. To me, this is a blatantly hostile act not only towards me, but also our clan.
Now, I'm not here to try to tell people that I'm right and he's wrong. I'm not here to say that I'm an awesome clan leader, and I do everything the right way all the time. That's not for me to decide, that's for all of YOU, and regardless of what you think of me personally, I want every single one of you to enjoy your time with us.
What I AM trying to say is this. If you have a problem with me, the clan, a clan member, or ANYthing, PLEASE let me know!!! I can't fix problems I have no idea about, and ESPECIALLY if it's ME that's fucking up, I want to know about it! I may have a perfectly reasonable explanation that you guys don't know about. Or I may be wrong and turn out to have my foot up my ass. But please, tell me to my face.
Also, DanMingle is quite likely to try to recruit some of you. I'm an not saying "Don't listen to him! Everything he says is a lie!". I'm insanely angry with him, but I'm trying to be as objective and fair with this whole situation as I can. But I AM saying, if he tries to recruit you, and you feel FURHQ isn't the clan for you, please let me know! I've given my heart and soul for these clans since I started FURHQ in February, and the thought of some people leaving without even giving me a second thought cuts me deeper than I can express.
In short... people, please be straightforward with me. If you present your problems to me calmly and reasonably, I'm not going to bite your head off! I LISTEN to every problem, and while I may not feel anything can be done in some situations, I take every complaint SERIOUSLY!
I love you all, guys, and I mean it every time I type in in a seemingly inconsequential way. I may not always be currently around, but I'm online 24/7. I'm always on tanks when the server is up, and I'm always on our TS server.
Wanna talk to me in other ways? Here's my contact info:
MSN: chu_109@hotmail.com
Steam: Lorethian (aka "Chu")
Skype: chuward
As for Dan, even though I'm seething mad at him, I don't want you guys to alienate him or think he's some sort of monster. He's a furry, and the MAIN reason I made these clans is to bring the furry community together, whether they're in my clans or not. Just keep in mind this situation, and please talk to me if you have any concerns about what's going on in the clans.
And Dan, if you're reading this, I'm still waiting for a word from you. You have my Steam, and I'm always on tanks. You're now properly banned from TS, and that's not going to change until you have the common courtesy to TALK to me about this.
Lore out.
A few days ago, DanMingle felt the need to leave FURST and create a clan of his own. This is something I'd normally have no problem with; it happened with Apocalypse929/BlitzFox when he left FURHQ in an attempt to start FURSS, a Spanish-speaking clan. He and I had some communication difficulties, but when he left, I was excited, and was trying to think of ways our two clans could work together to help his new idea grow! This was because Blitz came to me and told me that he was leaving to form another clan because he didn't feel comfortable with FURHQ (mostly because of a language barrier), and while I was sad to see him go, I respected his decision.
Dan didn't give me the same courtesy. He left without a word, and so did Saphirisa and Shockwave393. Dan also recruited DanielKitsaro, a former FURHQ member who decided to go solo for a while. While Shockwave, Daniel, and Saph have all since talked to me, and we've worked it out to some degree one way or another, Dan has YET to come to me and explain why he left, and what issues he was having with the clan that caused him to leave.
Apparently, according to everyone I've talked to but Dan himself, he was upset primarily at me. He states that I express favouritism towards certain clan members and ignore others, and that I haven't been there for the clans. This post isn't for me to defend myself, but to point out that he left without giving me a chance to address these issues and resolve them. He left the clan, and took other furries away from us, without even so much as a "goodbye".
As you can probably understand, this infuriated me. MY first move was to bar Dan and the other 3 from our Teamspeak server, with the mindset of "I'm not hosting this server for other clans, these are for FURHQ, FURST, FURRD, and whatever other clans our future may hold". Unfortunately, if it was either due to the heat of the moment, or just a simple oversight, I didn't think about how that would affect FURHQ, FURST, and FURRD (From here on in, for simplicity, I'm going to refer to all 3 as FURHQ) members who frequent TS, and would miss those folks. So, after a rather impassioned plea from a certain member of FURHQ, I relented and told Saph, Daniel, and Shockwave that they were welcome back in the Teamspeak, provided they weren't using it for recruitment purposes.
Dan, on the other hand, I banned because he had yet to even bother to say a word to me about any of this, and until I heard an explanation from him, there was absolutely zero reason for me to let him back in. However, since I'm fairly TS-inept, I wasn't familar with how to ban his IP if he wasn't online, so I just banned his name. He then changed his name, came on - after I had left - and proceeded to try to recruit M_Doyle. To me, this is a blatantly hostile act not only towards me, but also our clan.
Now, I'm not here to try to tell people that I'm right and he's wrong. I'm not here to say that I'm an awesome clan leader, and I do everything the right way all the time. That's not for me to decide, that's for all of YOU, and regardless of what you think of me personally, I want every single one of you to enjoy your time with us.
What I AM trying to say is this. If you have a problem with me, the clan, a clan member, or ANYthing, PLEASE let me know!!! I can't fix problems I have no idea about, and ESPECIALLY if it's ME that's fucking up, I want to know about it! I may have a perfectly reasonable explanation that you guys don't know about. Or I may be wrong and turn out to have my foot up my ass. But please, tell me to my face.
Also, DanMingle is quite likely to try to recruit some of you. I'm an not saying "Don't listen to him! Everything he says is a lie!". I'm insanely angry with him, but I'm trying to be as objective and fair with this whole situation as I can. But I AM saying, if he tries to recruit you, and you feel FURHQ isn't the clan for you, please let me know! I've given my heart and soul for these clans since I started FURHQ in February, and the thought of some people leaving without even giving me a second thought cuts me deeper than I can express.
In short... people, please be straightforward with me. If you present your problems to me calmly and reasonably, I'm not going to bite your head off! I LISTEN to every problem, and while I may not feel anything can be done in some situations, I take every complaint SERIOUSLY!
I love you all, guys, and I mean it every time I type in in a seemingly inconsequential way. I may not always be currently around, but I'm online 24/7. I'm always on tanks when the server is up, and I'm always on our TS server.
Wanna talk to me in other ways? Here's my contact info:
MSN: chu_109@hotmail.com
Steam: Lorethian (aka "Chu")
Skype: chuward
As for Dan, even though I'm seething mad at him, I don't want you guys to alienate him or think he's some sort of monster. He's a furry, and the MAIN reason I made these clans is to bring the furry community together, whether they're in my clans or not. Just keep in mind this situation, and please talk to me if you have any concerns about what's going on in the clans.
And Dan, if you're reading this, I'm still waiting for a word from you. You have my Steam, and I'm always on tanks. You're now properly banned from TS, and that's not going to change until you have the common courtesy to TALK to me about this.
Lore out.
